Motivation

No Limits: Interview with Paul Kyriazi

Head of Section: Before we jump in, there’s one question I want to ask you right off the bat. I heard that you’ve predicted that Skyfall is going to be one of the best James Bond films ever. That’s a pretty bold statement, so I’m wondering why you feel that way already? What exactly are you basing your prediction on?

Paul Kyriazi: Well, it’s interesting. I didn’t want to see anything about Skyfall until I got into the theater when it was released. But there I was watching the new Total Recall film and boom, there was the two-minute Skyfall trailer. So I thought, “Well, I’m stuck. I might as well watch and enjoy it,” and I was very impressed and happy, and surprised, to see the scenes and the action.

I’ve heard Daniel Craig talk about Quantum of Solace. A lot of fans were disappointed with the picture, and so was Craig. He said that the script needed a lot of work [which never happened due to the writers’ strike]. This means Daniel Craig is very serious about making sure that Skyfall will be perfect. Craig has worked with Sam Mendes on a movie called Road to Perdition, which was directed by Mendes, and has great style and great stylized action. So that was my first hint that this could be the best Bond film ever.

In the movies, they say, “if it’s not on the page, it won’t be on the screen.” Now, it’s not easy to write a good script, but what is easy is to take the script of Skyfall and compare it with their great film, Casino Royale. If they just compare the two scripts side by side, they can make an even better movie than Casino Royale. Are there more Bond witticisms? Are there more twists to the story? Are there more surprises? Are there deeper themes? I suspect that they would not continue until they were satisfied that the script had even more thrills and themes than Casino Royale. We all have those youthful favorites that will never be topped, but I think for the last 15 years, Skyfall will actually top Casino Royale.

And without getting into spoilers, there is a theme: The villain asks Bond what his hobby is, and Bond replies, “Resurrection.” I like that theme: resurrection, to reinvent or remake yourself. That’s what the James Bond Lifestyle that I teach is all about; reinvention.

Head of Section: I absolutely agree. Of course, it’s a little premature to make predictions, but I really think this is going to be something special. And as you said, I’m also excited about the whole underlying theme of resurrection, rebirth, and rediscovery.

Paul: Exactly. I think Skyfall has a chance to go beyond a Bond movie, in the same way The Dark Knight went beyond being a simple Batman movie. I think Skyfall has that same chance. It’s a very exciting idea.

Head of Section: Let’s talk about “How to Live the James Bond Lifestyle: The Complete Seminar.” As soon as I discovered your seminar; as soon as I first heard this title “How to Live the James Bond Lifestyle,” I knew that this was something I had to have. Of course there have been other incarnations, but it was the original 90-minute cassette, that I used to play in my car all the time. When was it that you first created the initial 90-minute cassette? What year was that?

Paul: That was in 1998, and I was actually the one to coin the phrase, “James Bond Lifestyle.” When it first came out people asked me, “What is this about? Being a killer and a mercenary and a womanizer?” I would reply, “No. It’s about luxury lifestyle.” Bond is a man of action, as all heroes are, but he’s also a man of leisure and prosperity. Other heroes, like Rambo; well, he’s either in prison or out there catching cobras. But when you see James Bond before a mission, he’s at a cool casino or a resort with a beautiful woman. That’s the thing that attracts us about Bond.

Recently, a mother of a 30-year-old man told me, “Thank you. Your book saved my son, and changed his life.” Evidently, he was heading down the wrong road at age 30. That was wonderful. A lawyer in America sent me an email; he was suffering an illness, and decided to fight it because he listened to the “James Bond Lifestyle” audio. That’s wonderful for me. Not only do I have the confidence that the techniques in the course are helping people, but also that people now understand the term. I no longer have to say, “No, it’s not about being a hit man.”

Head of Section: I’ll never forget my first experience listening to it. I would listen to it in the car, or at work. It was probably the first time I’d ever really heard anything like this. To really focus on taking the initiative, setting goals, and improving yourself. I still listen to it to this day.

Paul: Thank you, and you’ll notice, there are no jokes in it. It’s all serious. It’s all technique. It’s not “motivational.” This is for people who are already motivated. I believe that I can’t motivate you, and you can’t motivate me. We’re all in our period of growth, and we’re going to make that change at the right time for us. So I spent time on techniques. Although, I do say, “You’re on the planet, too. Why should James Bond have all the fun?” That’s about the only motivation I offer in the whole eight-hour seminar.

Head of Section: Tony Robbins said something that really stuck with me. He said, [paraphrasing] “I’m always mistaken for a guy who’s supposed to give motivation. You know, I’m a ’motivational speaker.’ In reality, I don’t do that at all. People are motivated to do whatever they’re already doing, even if they’re doing the wrong things. They already have the energy to do these things, so it’s really a matter of what they’re doing, and where they’re placing their energies.” So his assignment then is to ask, “Why are you doing the things you do, and how can we steer you into a different direction”

I think the “How to Live the James Bond Lifestyle Seminar” is similar. It says, “We’re all motivated to do something, but what are you motivated to do? And, if you want this kind of lifestyle, then these are the techniques you should use!”

Paul: Exactly! It’s the old saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” James Bond himself is enough motivation. We see him on the big screen in those exotic locations; maybe he’s on a speedboat going to some great island, and he’s always got enough cash. We want to live that lifestyle. We always root for him in the movies, “Go! Keep fighting. Don’t give up. Dismantle that bomb before it’s too late,” but then we leave the theater and we return to our own challenges and our own dreams, and sometimes we forget to root for ourselves. If we’re going to root for James Bond, let’s root for ourselves as well, and focus on our own dreams.

Head of Section: What ultimately inspired you to create the “James Bond Lifestyle Seminar?” What finally pushed you to put pen to paper.

Paul: It all started when I saw Dr No in the theater. I knew that I wanted to be like James Bond. I saw James Bond flipping guys and I thought, “Well, that’s cool,” so I got into judo and karate, which I really enjoyed. But, that wasn’t really what James Bond was all about. Meanwhile, I’ve always wanted to produce and direct my own movies. After film school, I tried to get film jobs, but while you’re looking for jobs you still have those financial problems. I was still watching James Bond movies and wanted to go to all those places and have adventures like that. So James Bond was always with me. He was just my ultimate hero, and I didn’t know exactly why.

I was fortunate to get a job making a documentary for 15 days in Phuket, Thailand, where they filmed The Man with the Golden Gun. The producer had arranged, a private flight; it was a jumbo jet that was supposed to be for cargo only, yet they had eight stewardesses on board. The flight was was from Hong Kong to Phuket, and I had a first class ticket, but there was no one on the plane. No other passengers. So the pilots invited me up to the cockpit, and that’s how I entered Phuket, Thailand. I was going to “James Bond Island” to direct a movie, on a high salary, in the cockpit of the plane, and I thought, “Man, I want more of this.”

So when I got home I really started looking at the James Bond movies. Having the films on video made it better, because you can now watch Bond anytime you want at home and it’s a more personal experience. It’s great in the movie theaters, but it’s very personal at home.

So that’s when I got the idea. I began reading all the success books, taking a lot of success courses, and I found three good teachers. That’s what I incorporated. I said, “I’ll begin using James Bond as the icon of the lifestyle I want, the money I want, and the adventures I want.” Then I decided to start writing down some ideas. As I became more successful with the movies, people asked me, “How do you do this? You don’t have any company behind you. You’ve been a freelancer all your life.” I would pass along these ideas I learned in success classes, but of course I’d forget to tell them all the ideas. So I thought, “I think I’ll write it all down.” which I did. Later I thought, “You know, I think I’ll just put it on a cassette and hand them the cassette.” That’s where it all started.

Head of Section: It just took off from there. You had your 90-minute cassette tape which we all loved. Then you expanded it into your book, and then to your eight-CD set. And now it’s available on the Kindle, which is fantastic. Now people can download it any time they want. They can even download it right now. So, tell us about what’s new for the Kindle edition.

Paul: You know, I had the choice of scanning the original book, but I decided I would re-type it from scratch, following the book, but adding all the things I learned since the last edition (the eight-CD set which came out in 2004). It had been a while, and I’ve learned so much from guys like you, and meeting other “James Bond agents,” as I call them on my Facebook “James Bond Lifestyle” seminar page. I’ve learned so much new information, and more examples of success.

So I’ve expanded on the text itself and included a lot of additional ’articles’ which are listed as sub-chapters and have their own headings (but I refer to them as articles). So I’m very satisfied with it. And you may have noticed that I have also added items marked with a “2012 Note,” (in bold) where I’ve added additional comments on what I had written. Another good thing with the Kindle is that I can add photos anytime I want, so there are now plenty of photos in there.

Head of Section: Speaking of photos, I see you were fortunate enough to meet your personal favorite James Bond.

Paul: I dedicated the paper book to George Lazenby, who made my favorite Bond movie. It’s a great movie, and a lot of people’s favorite, On Her Majesty’s Secret Service. It was very romantic; he falls in love, gets married. It was my favorite Bond movie and still is, so I dedicated the book to George Lazenby in 2002.

Then just last year, in November 2011, I met George Lazenby in Las Vegas at a celebrity show function, so I took a photo with him. I had nothing planned for when I was taking the photo, I just stepped up on the little platform with him and I looked at the camera. But I noticed that he just turned and looked right at me. So I couldn’t ignore it and I looked back at him and I said, “This never happened to the other fellow.” He laughed and said, “Perfect.” Then they snapped the picture, and now it’s at the end of the Kindle book. You just don’t know what dreams will happen when you set out on going after your goal.

Head of Section: I also wanted to talk to you about another article you wrote recently that I thought was really brilliant, and it was not about James Bond. You wrote an article about the film, Limitless, with Bradley Cooper, which came out just last year. The article illustrated all the techniques you can find in the film. Tell us a little about that article and about what you got out of that film.

Paul: Limitless was a big surprise to me. It’s the best non-James Bond movie that illustrates how to live the James Bond lifestyle. Right at the beginning, the main character takes a pill that expands his brain capacity and he immediately begins living the James Bond lifestyle; learning languages, getting his money in order, getting a haircut, etc. First, he cleans up his apartment: one of the rules of the James Bond lifestyle is: “my base of operations is always clean,” so the first thing he does is clean up. Then he gets the haircut and starts exercising, gets a new wardrobe, begins studying and focuses on his finances, etc. Then they take him to another country, and to a magnificent resort. It’s very exciting; Limitless is absolutely about the James Bond lifestyle.

Now what’s interesting is; we can do everything that Bradley Cooper did in that film, but without the pill. I have heard people say, “I sure wish I had that pill. I can’t do that without the pill.” But, you don’t need a pill to clean up your apartment, to learn a language, to get in shape, get some new clothes, get a new haircut, or go to a resort. You can do it all without the pill.

About a year and a half ago, I was working toward the next level of a large audio book production. I saw Limitless in the theater a few times, and then I got it on Blu-ray. So I kept watching the first 30 minutes of that movie, about once a week, when I needed some extra energy. So I really recommend that people see Limitless, and remember the lesson that you don’t need a pill to do everything that he did.

Head of Section: I have to tell you, one of the things that jumped out at me right away when I saw this film, was just how it literally took techniques that came right out of the “James Bond Lifestyle” seminar. Not figuratively – I mean, literally. When you watch him begin to rebuild and reconstruct his life, he’s literally doing the steps that are in the “James Bond Lifestyle” seminar. And as you said, we don’t need a magic pill to do these things. We can do all of these things today.

So following the same subject, one of the first things we see Bradley Cooper do is to dramatically change his appearance. He completely changes his look. You can see that the way he presents himself dramatically changes the way he’s perceived by the people around him. What do you think are the first things that a guy should do to dramatically change his appearance.

Paul: Starting an exercise program, or amping up your existing exercise program, is a big thing. Even if you lost five pounds, or even 10 pounds for a large man, you can feel the difference. You’ll feel that tightness in your stomach and your waistline. It’s a great feeling. Then, go to a higher level of clothes: think about long-sleeved shirts, and long pants instead of shorts, and leather shoes instead of tennis shoes.

With regard to age, I remember someone commenting on Warren Beatty in his forties and he had long hair and one of those neckerchiefs. They said, “Men after 40 with long hair and a neckerchief look like a pioneer woman.” So maybe that’s one thing to avoid, but even after 40 you can still wear a leather jacket. I just think the clothes should get a little more stylish and a little more expensive, and it should fit the time, place and location. Know where you’re going and dress accordingly.

Head of Section: Right after clothing and appearance, there’s one thing that I’ve been asked for most at “Being James Bond.” The far and away winner was, “when are you going to talk about women?” In your seminar, you give the “ultimate secret of women.” You spend a lot of time talking about women, about how guys should handle themselves around women. Tell us, if you don’t mind, a little bit about your secret of women.

Paul: You’ll notice that in the audio book and in the Kindle, the chapter on Bond girls is the largest [70 pages in total on the Kindle]. In the audio, it’s over an hour of Bond girl information, and it’s very serious information. What I’ve discovered is that the man himself doesn’t have to be fun and cool; rather, he just has to take a woman to cool and fun places. He becomes the director of fun; and by osmosis, he’ll be thought of as fun. I learned this in junior high school and high school, when the girls would always say things like, “Oh, this guy is cute,” or “that guy is cute.” But in college I didn’t hear that anymore. Instead, I heard, “That guy is fun!” or “That other guy is no fun. This one is boring, but that other guy is fun.” So ‘fun’ is the secret. Then of course, Cyndi Lauper summed it up with her mantra, “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun.” So I made that the ultimate secret of women.

Yes, women want love, respect, and financial security, and most guys will give them that. But, most men forget all about ’fun.’ Women have told me in person and over e-mail, “Man, you have hit the nail on the head! Guys put the energy in when they’re dating to reel you in, (one girl used that term, “reel you in”) but then, after they’ve got you, they only want to sit and drink beer and watch football games.” Another girl said, “Hey, I’m only 25. I want to go out and have some fun.”

I’ve also gotten emails from guys that said, “I was a couch potato. So I started taking my family out on little outings, dinners and movies,” he says, “They now have a new respect for me.” This single technique has even saved marriages.

The point is, you have to be an entertainer and plan some outings. I remember the comedian, Steve Allen: He was dating his then future-wife in New York, and the first date he took her on was to the sky show at the planetarium. They were driving back after that and she said, “That was fun,” and he replied, “You know, most men would have taken you to dinner at Sardi’s, or to a Broadway play, but I took you to the moon!” I’ve heard so many similar stories; They asked the wife of Michael Cane, “Why do you like him so much?” And she replied, “Well, he always wants to go someplace. He always wants to do something.” I’ve heard Mira Sorvino, when she was dating Quentin Tarantino asked, “Why do you like him?” She replied, “Oh, he’s so fun.” She actually used the word “fun.”

The other thing you need to do is to plan a date. You don’t just hang around or cruise a strip like in American Graffiti, you plan a date. Plan a place to have dinner, a concert, the amusement park. Plan the date as if it was a movie, which includes a proper ending. I’ve seen guys who typically go out in a large group, and one guy will say, “Hey, one more drink, one more night club,” until the night comes to a boring conclusion. So when you feel the energy of the date is dwindling, take the girl home, because she’s got work as well. End it on a high note. Plan the date like a good, nicely edited movie.

What you don’t need is a pickup line or a ’rap’ line. Just ask a girl what her plans are, what her dreams and goals are. Now there’s something to talk about, finding out a person’s dreams. Maybe their dream is to go to college, or to get another apartment, or to live in London for a few months. Whatever. When you find out their dreams, you have something to talk about. Then you can help them make some plans to achieve those dreams. That’s what you talk about on dates, and that’s the ultimate secret.

And speaking of conversation, if you ask James Bond about any subject, “What do you know about gold? What do you know about diamonds?” Bond can usually give them a lecture. He seems to know something about everything. One of the rules of the James Bond lifestyle is: “I read a book a week.” Just by doing that, you’ll have read 52 books a year, or over 500 books in ten years. It’s going to have an impact on your life, and begin to seep into your conversation naturally. You’re not going to show off and start quoting Shakespeare, but you will find them creeping into your conversations. “Wow, where did that come from?” Quoting a classic author, or even a movie like Limitless, will just spice up your own conversations. And this will flow into all areas of your life, and will naturally elevate these areas as you start getting serious about your lifestyle.

This also leads to another very important area of life. If you’re fun and you have good conversation, then that will also carry over into your business life. That’s all a matter of timing; the way you handle a meeting, the place where you choose to take your boss for dinner. You’ll be dressing a little better, you’ll become interested in people, you’ll become a little more healthy with exercise – all these areas of your life will naturally be raised up.

Head of Section: Technology has obviously spiraled forward since the days of your 90-minute cassette. Since then we’ve had CDs and MP3s and now digital downloads. Instead of books and bookstores, we now have eBooks and Kindles. But technology has now become a useful tool, more than ever. We now have ways to stay organized, to learn more and to learn more quickly. So what is your Q Branch looking like these days? How is technology helping you in ways that it didn’t before?

Paul: The new technology is wonderful. It saves so much time. The Kindle is just one way; if I want to send a gift of a Bond book to someone, I just go to Amazon and click the ’gift’ button, put in the e-mail address, and it’s gone. No more packaging, no more getting their address, going to the post office. That’s just the beginning.

Anything we want to know, we just type in a Google or YouTube search. Recently, I was going to this Frank Sinatra, Jr. concert, and even headed backstage to see him. I would be wearing a black jacket and I wanted to have a handkerchief in the pocket. I’ve seen handkerchiefs folded with the triple points and I thought, “I don’t know how to fold them like that.” So I went on YouTube and searched, “How do you fold a handkerchief?” I got a number of results, and one of them even suggested: “Don’t go to a department store where they’ll only have a few colors. Instead, go to a material store where they will have 20 oranges, 20 reds and 20 blacks.” He then continued to say that you don’t have to fold all those little points. Instead, cut a piece of the material into a one foot square piece, poke your hand up through the middle, and just stuff it in your pocket so it puffs out a little bit. You don’t have to hem the edges since they’ll be inside your pocket. So sure enough, I did go to a material store and there it was. My handkerchief looked exactly the way Dean Martin wore his for all his shows. I didn’t have to call friends. There’s the technology; you can learn anything with YouTube and Google.

You can now ask yourself: “What do I want to learn?” Since you can connect with pretty much anyone with Facebook, you can consider, “who do I want to spend my time talking to?” With cell phones you can ask, “how long do I want to spend on a conversation with this person?” Now you can do just about anything with technology.

And of course, the car navigator is just wonderful. All the time you save by not pulling out maps and stopping at gas stations asking for directions. It sounds like I just got one, but I’ve had the Magellan for ten years. I got my first one for $1,000, but now that same Magellan is only $120. That’s just wonderful. Q Branch is really doing well. James Bond is efficient in what he does, and now we can be efficient and improve our lifestyle more quickly than ever before with our new technology.

Head of Section: If there was just one thing that a lot of guys are missing or just not getting, what do you think might be the one thing that guys are misunderstanding?

Paul: We’re bombarded with a lot of negativity, especially in America. With the economy and terror threats in the news, there’s a lot of fear out there. This kind of fear makes people helpless. They think, “What’s the use? Why should I push forward?”

I think they’re missing the empowering dream. You need a goal. Yes, you need small goals when you want to get to another apartment or a get better job, but you need a larger dream that motivates you. It might be spending two weeks at Disney World or traveling to a foreign country; you need an empowering goal that makes you excited. If you want to go to the Dr No waterfall in Jamaica like Sean Connery and Ursula Andress, you can go there. If that gets you excited, you can get on the Internet and find out where that is, what the plane fare is, and you find somebody to go with. That will get you excited, and that will creep into your whole day.

Head of Section: Before we close, we spoke a lot about the theme of resurrection. Obviously, one of the big themes in Skyfall is resurrection, being reborn. I feel there’s a lot of people right now who are probably coming off a pretty tough year. Maybe one of the toughest years that they’ve ever had. So, as we close out the year and as we all start to reinvent ourselves again, climb out of the cave and become reborn, what are some words of advice you want to leave us with? What would you tell those guys who are going through an experience of rebirth?

Paul: As soon as you get into that idea of rebirth, resurrection, changing your life, it’s going to take energy to push past the resistance. It’s a world of inertia. You have to push to make a path, and that takes time, energy, and money (the symbol of energy). First, you’ll have the dream: You’ll come out of Skyfall and say, “Wow, I want to do some of that. Maybe I want to go to Switzerland and dive off the Goldeneye Dam, or maybe I want to go to the Dr No waterfall.” The first thing that comes to mind is, “Uh oh, that’s going to take a couple of thousand dollars for airfare. Who do I go with? Where is the dam? How will I find it?” All of these resisting ideas are going to come to mind. Any time you have a dream, there’s going to be resistance, fear and worry that it’s just too expensive.

That’s when you ask yourself, “Well, what would James Bond do?” The right answer will come back: He would make a plan, take action, and make it happen. He wouldn’t fold under pressure. He’s going to focus, call up his talent and deliver on a deadline.

That’s why I always use the calendar; to give yourself a deadline. You’ll notice in every Bond movie, he’s got a deadline. If there’s no deadline, if he can just turn the bomb off whenever he wants, then he might do it next year, two years from now, maybe never. No, that bomb is ticking in Fort Knox and he’s on a time limit. So he has to call up his talent and deliver on a deadline. So tell yourself, “Hey, I’m going to go to the Bond waterfall, and I’m going to find a Bond girl to take there.”

Remember: Resistance is going to come along any time you make an idea to resurrect or reinvent yourself and fulfill an exciting dream. What would James Bond do? Focus, make a plan, and never fold under the pressure.

Head of Section: Just keep on fighting, keep working towards your goals and persevere.

Paul: That’s it. The number one idea you need for success is perseverance, because if you quit, it’s over. You notice Bond never quits. He never talks about quitting. It’s not even part of his make-up. There’s no quitting.

Head of Section: Paul, again, thank you for being with us. I feel like every time we speak, every time I hear your very familiar voice, I always feel re-energized myself.

Paul: Well, this has been energizing for me as well. Any time you talk about those subjects with another person, you’re actually teaching yourself and getting ideas. Two people meeting who are in the same vibration, it’s energizing.

Head of Section: Once again, we’re with Paul Kyriazi, author of the “How to Live the James Bond Lifestyle: The Complete Seminar.” seminar, which is available in audio format and also as a paperback. Most recently, the expanded version is now on the Kindle. So if you have a Kindle or an iPad, you can download it immediately.

Paul: That’s correct. It’s also at Barnes & Noble on Nook, which is their reading device and it’s on iTunes as well.

Head of Section: Paul, once again, thanks very much for being with us. Be sure to enjoy Skyfall. I’ll be curious to hear what you thought.

Paul: Thank you. Head of Section!

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